Johnsen Family Christmas Party

Porter, Brooke & Jessenia let me impose on them for a quick pic!

Max stalking Uncle Mike's remote control car from Grandma J

Some crazy boys... The white elephant gift exchange circle for the great grandkids...

2nd to last, Max patiently waits for his turn to snatch a gift. Luke drifts off to sleep in Grandpa's arms

Daddy and Max cheer for the achievement announcements Clarissa & Sarah enjoy Christmas dinner

The Johnsen cousins NativityWise Man Max, aka 'Karate Kid', with his puppet camel/chew toy

My very favorite moment from the Johnsen Family Christmas Party this year was the few minutes I took advantage of to sit and talk with Ryan's grandma Elaine. We spoke about her health at 89 (almost 90) and how she looks forward, not fearing, leaving this life to go and be with her family and her dear Clark. She lifted her old and weathered hands to touch and play with Luke and to hug Max.

There was a very special and very poignant moment in our conversation when she turned to Ryan and I and she gave us counsel as parents. She said to us "When you're busy and your children are trying to get your attention, stop what you are doing and ask them what they need. Ask them why they need it. Find out what they need and why it is important to them. Teach them to share. It will be hard. Teach them to be kind. They grow so fast you know."

Ryan and I discussed her words on the way home. We thought how very interesting that here is a woman who will be leaving this world soon and these are the thoughts she feels important to leave with us. She said she regretted not taking advantage of the little moments.

I'm sure she doesn't remember the phone call that was so important at the time her girls were tugging on her pant leg or the floors that just had to be cleaned. And neither will I. I think Grandma J's counsel will be at the top of my New Year's resolutions. I love her for it and I will never forget those moments Ryan and I shared with her...